On my ride home tonight, I was flipping through car radio stations and happened upon Ed Sheeran’s “Don’t” – a new song of his. I don’t highly recommend the song…there is a lot of not-so-favorable messages and language mixed in with a funky beat (which seems to be the go to in today’s music.)
A call for forever.
Because we were made for more.
For those of you haven’t heard the song, the premises is that the singer met a gorgeous girl more than a year ago, but she jumped out of his life as soon as she came in. Then, just last week, she’s back.
Why is she back all of the sudden? He thinks it’s because this lovely lady was “looking for a lover to burn.”
So, instead of realizing the temporary lust she is enticing him to, he “gave her my time for two or three nights.” Then he does what she did to him….walks out for a couple of months until it’s convenient for him to return.
You know humans were made for more than that, right? More than a one night stand. More than temporary lust.
Sheeran’s chorus (the radio version, sans expletives) revolves around the fact that he doesn’t want to know “that.” He doesn’t want to know that this isn’t going to last. That this girl and him are only as temporary as the lust burns…and after those feelings are gone, they’re both out of each other’s lives, looking for another quick flame.
Verse two continues the destruction of both parties and the objectification of the human being, created in the image of God.
Sheeran’s infatuation continues. He “only wanna see her” for a couple of weeks after they’ve gotten back together. She moves in, they bond over their hectic schedules and things look to be going quite smashingly.
Until it happens.
The next guy comes in the picture. He’s cute. She likes him. They kiss. Sheeran is confused. How could she do that when “she knows” that it hurts him? Her new man and her go all the way, and only a short time later, there she is, at Sheeran’s hotel door.
She wants love. She wants authentic, will-the-good-of-the-other-as-other love. And he can’t give it to her.
Why? His heart has been taken over by lust and selfishness. He claims “Trust and respect is what we do this for” but at the same time, he uses this young woman’s body for his own pleasure, without regard to the immortal soul that dwells within it.
He says that he never saw this other guy as a threat…”Until you disappeared with him to have sex of course.” Yet he fails to see the irony in the fact that, just a couple of weeks ago, he was doing the same thing with her that he is now irritated at this second guy for.
” And I wasn’t looking for a promise or commitment, but it was never just fun and I thought you were different.”
It was never just fun.
We can tell ourselves quite good lies, can’t we?
“Everyone’s doing it.”
“It’s okay…we love each other.”
“It’s nothing serious. Really.”
Really? Your body is making a commitment that your heart and mind can’t keep without the commitment of marriage.
So, in a sense Ed Sheeran is right – Don’t. Don’t throw your body right after your heart in the battle against lust. Don’t reject the beautiful plan God has for you in favor for a temporary satisfaction.
Maybe I’m just rambling. Maybe this sounds like “Ah lahmlahlah” to you. But you, regardless of your gender or age, religious affiliation or education level, were made for greatness.
The creator of the universe created you.
If you ever question your worth…just don’t. See what I did there?
Si vis Amari ama,