If you are among the 75% of people who will get married in your life time, then you will more than likely meet a member of the opposite sex, settle down and raise a family. Who you will “settle down” with is one of the most important decisions you will make in your life. A question to consider though, How will someone get to know you if you don’t know you?
It is easy to loose yourself in things. Sometimes this is school work. You begin to describe yourself by who you are in school: “Hi I’m _______. I’m a senior in high school and am currently looking into __________ college. My GPA is _____.” By the way, I know this introduction from experience. The point is, you become what you do, and you may loose track of who you actually are. What do you like to do? What makes you happy? Who makes you mad? What makes you feel loved?
These are questions that the person who you will marry is going to want to know. He/She will want to know what makes you feel loved, what annoys you, and what your favorite things are. So, after you have put together your “Can’t Stand” and “Must Have” lists, you may want to consider putting together a questionnaire that describes who you are.
Some example questions may include:
– Who is the most important person in your life? Why?
– What is one dream you really want to achieve?
– What is it like being you? (Physically, mentally and spiritually?)
– When do you feel the most afraid?
– What bores you?
– What is the role of God in your life?
– What is the role of money in your life?
– What would you want people to say about you at your funeral?
When you are led by God to a person in your life who you’ll marry, understand that you will be dying to yourself everyday so you can help get him/her to Heaven. Hopefully, you will select a spouse who will be doing the exact same thing for you.